“Don’t Let Your Struggle Become Your Identity” – Ralston Bowles
I came across this quote on Twitter today and immediately had an “Oh Shit, That’s Me!” moment. I read many quotes every day, and none have had the effect on me that this one has.
I have let my mental health troubles define me. I even say it on my tagline for this blog, “The incoherent ramblings of a mentally ill writer and blogger”.
Everything in my life is in some way connected to my struggle with mental illness.
How did I let that happen? Does it happen to everyone after so many years of struggling? Have I given up the fight and now just use mental illness as the excuse why I don’t do something? How many opportunities have I let slip away because I just happen to be sick?
Everything that I do happen to accomplish is tainted because I spent much of my time worrying if my illness will ruin my efforts. This is nothing new to me; I have been doing it for years.
Then again, as I go back and read what I just wrote, I could be blowing this whole thing out of proportion.
Yes, my mental illness is a big part of my life, but I have done quite a few things despite it. My life has been a whole series of ups and downs. The downs have been horrible and life-changing, but the ups have been brilliant and wonderful.
I think I just need to change my perspective a bit. Maybe I need to change my tagline to “the incoherent ramblings of a writer and blogger, who just happens to have a mental illness”. Kind of long, but you know what I mean. This could work on a number of things. I am a…
- Father of four
- Loving husband
- Grateful son
- Special friend
- Amateur writer
- Blogger extraordinaire
- Copywriter in-training
…who just happens to have a mental illness.
I like that. What do you think?